A Smattering of Thought

Two lost souls who finally find each other, stare longing into their each other's eyes, the gentle caress, the whispered words of affection and the quickening of the heartbeat. This is usually associated with the swelling of the music, a tightening of the camera angle and the perfectly timed kiss as the snow lightly falls around them.  The stuff Hallmark movies are made of.  The stuff little girls often dream of. The type of love that oversells and under delivers. Our general misconception of love leads little girls to become hardened and at times are taken advantage of as their ideals are dashed and they begin to look around for “ok” or “better than nothing”. This is not what love is supposed to be like at all.  Movies sometimes can get it right but most of the time they strive to sell something that doesn’t actually exist.   Love is not the fairy tale we envision in movies or books. Love is not the pitter-patter of our hearts. Love is hard. ...

Dear Single, February is almost here and yes, that means  - - - Valentine’s Day !!  You can’t run from it… You can’t hide from it… BUT… You can {and should} embrace it! Even if you are not dating someone, you do have people to show love/concern/care for rather than wallow in pity.  Life is too short to be sitting at home, eating chocolate while watching sappy chick-flicks bemoaning the fact you are alone. Get out there.  Meet up with some friends.    Bring someone an unexpected bouquet of flowers (great deals on roses). Help a married couple by hanging with their kids so they can get out.  Host a dinner party with friends {married or single}. Just.   Do.   Something. Oh, and another thing, since marriage/dating will be on your mind and you start to wonder about why you are still single… DO NOT SETTLE ! Never!  Ever!   I don’t care what media or psychologists say about lower your standards...